Lessons for the Boys

Subject line aside, I'm extremely happy. If this man keeps impressing me, we may have a situation on our hands...and I think I'd like it a lot.

I've interacted with quite a few males within the past couple of weeks. I've been impressed as well as practically sick to my stomach when checking them out (pictures + profile). Here are some rules for impressing me (and probably every girl with a good head on her shoulders):

1. Have an opinion. I don't just want admirers. I want us to talk about the arts (poetry, music, etc.) and anything else under the sun. Surface conversation doesn't do it for me anymore. For example, there's this one dude who loves me and is already talking about how wonderful it would be if we were together. First off, you've never seen me before in life. You only have a handful of pictures to go off of, and 95% of them are head shots. I sent him the poem I posted last week and all he can say is "that's a beautiful poem." I can't accept that. I am deeper than that. Goodbye.

2. Read my profile and prove that you read it. Okay, I'm not going to give you a reading comprehension quiz, but come on. Not everyone wants to date someone simply because he/she is a 10. I surely don't want that. Get a feel for who I am. Most of the basic questions you want to ask are already answered on my profile. If you ask me a bunch of obvious questions in a row, I'm going to know that you didn't read a damn thing. You lose points for that.

3. Going beyond the picture. My picture does not define me. If I were to take a picture of every angle, chances are a lot of people wouldn't respond to specific ones. I already know how important appearance is to some people, but I'm more than that. You can't tell me what type of person I am based on a cute smile. Looks are deceiving. I'm an exception. I have a pretty face with a personality to match.

4. Know my limits. At the bottom of every profile, there are specific guidelines in order to contact me. The age range I'm interested in is 18-26. Please tell me why this 28-year-old man still tries to contact me. There may be exceptions to the rule, but for now, I'm sticking to my limits. Please respect them. It's not you, but then again, maybe it is...Edit: (2:20-ish) Dude just tried to message me again. Honey, give it a rest...

5. Have at least a high school mastery of the English language. You already know how I feel about chat speak. It's not attractive to me. It's okay if you didn't go to college. It's not for everyone, but I need someone who is at least close to my level. More than five spelling errors may subject to complete evasive action of your messages.

For the most part, I'm just looking for friends. I feel like things may go deeper with one particular friend, but that's an exception to the rule. That's another blog topic that I may touch on in a few days. I'm just going to let this new feeling marinate a bit for now.

A boyfriend at my fingertips?

I am anticipating a future of complete laziness. Even now we barely have to move to get in contact with people or have access to certain objects. A favorite tv show, the newest hit song, the perfect boyfriend...

I just recently joined a dating site for kicks. One of my best friends decided to sign up, and it's completely free. "Why not?" I asked myself. It wouldn't hurt to get back in touch with some boys.

I instantly received numerous hits and quite a few welcome messages after I signed up. I even instant messaged a couple of hopefuls (who messaged me first). I gave one my number and he's been texting here and there. He called me at 2am last night, but I was in no mood to talk to a stranger that late.

Even with the possibility of meeting the perfect guy, we all hide behind these online personalities. Lucky face shots will get guys' attention, but what about those that don't make the cut? How many guys would actually stick around if they knew I was bisexual? There's always those deep dark secrets that are kept inside at surface conversation.

And how many times do we look at a myspace profile pic of a boy and think "He's the one" at first glance? Hardly ever. As romantic as I am, I don't believe in love at first sight. Infatuation...yes. Anyway, I haven't seen any drop-dead gorgeous people yet (at least in my area). Isn't that the point though? A networking site for mostly average people who can't get laid on a regular basis...

Of course, I consider myself being above average. It's hard to find people on the regular walk of life, so here I am trying to see what I can find beyond the mall trips and local Starbucks runs in my hometown. Maybe there is someone out there who understands.

In the meantime, I'm just living my life. If I find someone, cool. If not, at least I can say I tried something new.

Because of the demands of my sexuality (lol), I'm not sure if I could do a serious relationship now anyway. I guess if I find that person, then sure. For now, I'm just going to stay with the safe "dating" status.

I thought this was going to be more profound. Oh well...

Subject aside, I'm dying to go home for Thanksgiving. My dad's supposed to pick me up later today. I need to start packing...